Every so often, I'm reminded kind of viscerally that white people just can't fucking cope with the idea that there are spaces and things that are just Not For Them.
I've never encountered people in my communities (Latine or Indigenous) that feel that burning entitlement to go into Black-only spaces. But without fail, every time a space is deemed out of reach for whites, the meltdowns start.
I'll say the quiet part out loud and spell it out: that urge to not be left out? The outrage or hurt you feel about being told no? Yeah, that's racist. Your entitlement to other people, to their culture and their company is rooted in not seeing them as people. You feel your curiosity (or let's be real, your fear that you're being criticized or talked about) is more important than Black people feeling safe and being able to stop masking.
"I'm a good person, they should be comfortable with me there!" Should they? Because you betray the racist entitlement when you throw a tantrum when told no. You invite harassment for them and further annoyance when you get belligerent and stupid about being told no.
And making other people deal with it for you is even more racist.
Trying to engineer the perfect situation where you can circumvent a rule ("this space is Black-only") is the same racist impulse as trying to come up with a scenario where you can say the n-word ("what if that's the only way I can save a life? Can I say it then or should I let people die?").
Really sit down and think about how fucked up it is, that people can't say no to you, because you act like this. Because deep down, you still think Black people saying no is not allowed.
That's what it is: that's the racist bit. Black people say no, and whites get outraged, because it wasn't a question, it was really a command. Now why the fuck do white people feel so comfortable giving orders and expecting absolute obedience from Black people, hm? It's a fucking mystery, huh?
So yeah. No is a full fucking sentence and if you publicly meltdown about it, you're a fucking racist creep.